lilmarron (lilmarron) wrote in themoreiloveyou,

Hey all! Wonder if any of you actually remember me hehe. Well...I actually came here looking for advice. Recently my old boyfriend (Fred) and I have been talking and he wants to get back with me. The problem I am having though is that he hasn't improved much since the breakup and on top of that there is a new guy in my life. He hasn't officially asked me to be his girlfriend (and after the drama I had with Fred I'm not sure I'd like a boyfriend at this point anyways) but we have gone on a few dates and we've kissed. I like this guy, but sometimes I feel like he's a little self righteous. On the other side however, I like Fred, but he's not righteous enough (if that is a good word to describe that). On the other hand I don't really know this new guy (Robert) well enough yet to actually know if he is just too self righteous or maybe he's just trying very hard to impress me (which could easily be the case since that is how I am being around him too). Anyways...basically I need some advice. Should I keep letting Fred think that we have a chance with eachother? There may be some chance, but it would also be very easy for me to just give up on him. Should I tell Robert about Fred? Do you think that Robert is actually the way he seems or maybe he's putting up a good face to impress me? (When I say self righteous...I mean that he asked me tonight if I wanted to read the Bible with him...things like that...but he may be trying to impress me...we met at a Bible Study). Anyways...sorry this was long and winded and boring. Appreciate feedback :D thanks guys!
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I'm not sure if you still need advice on this subject since it's been a little while since you posted this, but I'll offer some nonetheless!

You seem to somewhat be torn between Fred and Robert. They both have their individual pros and cons, and they both seem to care a lot about you.

Think about your past relationship with Fred. It seems as though you somewhat doubt him ("he hasn't improved much since the breakup"), but doubts aside, do you think you two could go far together? Or would the same mistakes that happened previously, happen again?

Robert could easily be trying to impress you, but I think that most people try to impress each other early on. They want to make a good impression, and they care about your judgement... so really, if he is trying to impress you, I would say it's a good thing. :D It's pretty cute.

It's really up to you. Just put a lot of thought into it - which one do you enjoy being around, more? Which one do you see future plans with? Which one do you think would offer you more happiness?

(I think personally, just from the way you wrote the entry, it seems as though you like Robert more. But that's just what I think; don't let my opinion infuence your decision!)

Good luck!